In life, you get to meet 2 types of people.
1) Positive People
2) Alien Negative People
Those of you who know me, from my writing in this blog, you know, I am a SUPER POSITIVE person. 
I always emphasize, that if you want to be successful in life, you must CHOOSE to surround yourself with POSITIVE people.
NEGATIVE people?
You must learn how to MANAGE them. If not you will be mismanaged
Today, I am going to dissect, a real life example, on how a positive and negative person responds to an event. name has been omitted for privacy issue
Then, you will know, why I advocate so much, the importance of surrounding yourself with positive people.
POSITIVE people shares POSITIVE energy.
Negative people stinks with negative energy.
You CHOOSE who you want to associate with!
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Statement |
Positive Person Response |
Negative Person Response |
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1) I am going to invest in SRS account, to reduce my chargeable income by $10,000. |
Wow… That is a brilliant idea! How do you do that? |
Your salary got so much meh? I only earn at most $2,000 a month. |
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2) I just created a blog to share financial planning tips for the public. |
Great! I will also like to create a blog like yours! |
VIRUS! Your blog no good. |
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3) I am featured in a recruitment magazine. |
Wonderful. You are good in your public relations. |
Your smile looks so fake! |
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4) Lets start work at 9.30am. |
On ah…We’ll work together. |
Aiyah….So early.. |
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5) I am expanding my clients profile to the PR market. |
Good. Same like me. Play by your strength. |
Aiyerrrrr….(with disgust look) No good. |
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6) I just close a $300/mth case. |
Congrats…How do you do it? |
The person got work or not? |
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7) (When I get so much rejection, and look rejected) |
Come on, Helmi, you can do it! (in an encouraging tone) |
Why? You not happy other people close case,izzit? |
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Great. We must continue to upgrade ourself. |
All these, you DON’T need. (..and he will look at you like, he knows everything) |
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9) After I complete my CFP program in 3 years,I am going to help the community by writing a book on financial planning. |
Yes. You can do it. |
No. You cannot. You don’t have the experience. |
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Yeah…It’s REAL LIFE situation.it is not fairy tale
Okay…So now, we know, we establish the fact that, we cannot avoid NEGATIVE people ENTIRELY.
They are everywhere.
They will criticise you, try to bring you down because of their OWN comfort zone.
They are not “comfortable” when you work harder to attain greater success than them.
Negative critics and comments were bottled out, to pull you back to THEIR comfort zone which is not to attain success.
So…. WHAT CAN YOU DO?
Well, remember, the formula, I advocate, E+R=O.
Hmmm, seems you heed my advice, and you tried your best, to think POSITIVELY, yet you still feel that their remark HURTS so much.
Try this wonderful tip, I learnt from an Asian netpreneur,Dr Irfan Khairi in his Malay motivational book.
When other people criticize you, either in front of you,or behind your back, you….
Forgive them.
FORGIVE THOSE WHO CRITICS YOU, because they do not see your effort in upgrading yourself, for the near future. After you FORGIVE them, continue your effort to reach more success.
I guess, if you read, Western motivational articles, you will see them lambasting negative people.
Yeah… Lets CHOOSE the Asian approach.
So next time, when someone utters something negative to you,just FORGIVE them,and continue to work hard to achieve greater success.
It will lift off the burden load from your shoulder and you will feel more enthusiastic,more energetic, refresh to continue your MISSION to be successful in every of your endeavour.
TRY IT!
My other related posts that may interest you:
- Law Of Attraction and How I Use It To My Advantage.
- How To Handle Hypocrites….
- 1 Negative Person Versus 3 Positive Person.Who Wins?
8. October 2008 at 12:15 am
hi, just came across your website from recommendation. and i fully agree with you! no matter where we are, there will be such characters. guess it’s in your psyche to take what’s positive out of their negative comments.
thanks, your post made my day. =)
12. October 2008 at 2:48 pm
Suhaila >>> It is quite a CHALLENGE sometimes to deal with negative people.
That is why we have to consciously SELECT positive people to be our close friends,aligning ourselves to a COMMON GOAL.
Stay positive!
27. January 2009 at 7:23 pm
Got to your website through search engine. From experience, it’s either you take these negative comments as silly jokes, or it is WISE to stay away from such people. *wave to Suhaila*
4. May 2009 at 11:54 pm
I’m not gay…but I kinda like you. (strictly in a straight male to another straight male,professional sense) lol
Cheers