My friend always tell me, “You all Malay, very lucky one….. We, Chinese ar, our wedding can cost $50,000 – $60,000…… Our life savings all gone….”
I used to agree with them, until I plan for my own one…. but now, I have a come back line, ” Ya lah….But you all can cover back your costs wat….”
lolz….. I have been procrastinating to post my rough calculation on the cost of Malay wedding in Singapore. But for the benefit of all, below is the extract from my own financial plan, just for my side of the wedding held under my HDB blk, not inclusive my future wife’s side……. 🙂
If you are planning to get married in a few years time, going to get married, just gotten married, already few years in marriage, do call me for a FREE financial planning advice. I will be very happy to assist you! 🙂
****UPDATES on 8th August 2013****: The post that I created was a year ago, on 8th October 2012. Alhamdulillah, most of the costs, remained intact, as I have made my downpayment, reservation fees at that point of time. However, certain expenses can only be confirmed closer to my wedding date, thus I update them in the costs allocation table above using the red fonts.
As most of you are aware, there is this thing called inflation. Which means, costs of wedding rise year by year. I will advice you to go down to the wedding expo, and confirm with the pertinent vendors, on the specific prices involved. The wedding costs, that I computed above is the exact costs, that I incurred for my wedding. You have the autonomy and flexibility to adjust accordingly. Enjoy the process, like the way, I do. 🙂
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Your brother charges you too much 🙂
Thanks Khai for commenting. He scales it down because I am his brother! 🙂
Salam Helmi, could I use your computation in my thesis paper? I’m doing a thesis on Malay weddings and came across this. It’s a good representation of an average Malay wedding and could come in handy for my paper(:
Waalaikumsalam. Go ahead Sis. Just remember to credit it to http://www.helmihakim.com at the computation table, footnote or bibliography. Thanks! 🙂
These figures are quite close to our own used in our Marriage Prep Course.
Feedback from participants seem to indicate that hantaran gifts should be in the range of S$1,000 to S$2,000.
Some also throw in honeymoon package ranging from S$2,000 to S$5,000.
We’ve a participant who spent S$14,000 just on honeymoon alone.
Btw, now Tok Kadi “transport money” is S$100.
Thanks Encik Mohd Khair for sharing. I created the report, prior to attending SuchiSuccess Marriage Preparation Course, conducted by you. The marriage preparation course conducted by you is very insightful, helpful and pragmatic! 🙂
Tok Kadi “transport money” is $100.
Yes,hantaran gifts can range between $1000 to $2000. For my case, wedding ring (or perhaps bracelet since I have given an engagement ring), I scale it down further, and treat it, as my mas kahwin.
…and yes, I have not factor in the cost for a honeymoon, in this blog post! 🙂
was about to comment on that brother part. haha!
Hi,
Ive just done my chinese wedding. Basically our cost is almost the same. The only difference is the food. Chinese wedding food is usually at a restaurant or hotel where they charge much more for venue. Also, most chinese do not have live band, singer, performance etc. Though I do see an increase in performance from friends and even by the couple.
In reality, a wedding could easily cost half as much as that quoted, if we complied with Islamic recommendations. Just imagine what a couple could do with money spent on hantaran, DJ, entertainment and professional photography. My sister and her husband made do without all those at a total cost of $12k, paid in hard-earned cash. Her wedding was just as beautiful and guests thoroughly enjoyed their time, alhamdulillah. More importantly, they started their married life without a single cent in debt on both sides. May Allah ease our affairs.
I agree with you, that it will be great, if you are happy and can reach consensus with your family members to do away with money spent on hantaran, DJ, entertainment and professional photography.
Nevertheless, as a financial planner, I advise my clients to be conservative in setting strategic financial goals and start their savings early, the moment they step into the work force.
I share useful financial tips on saving for a wedding without debts, in a TV show called “Demi Cinta”, every Thursday on Suria at 9pm.
Do catch the show. Insya’Allah 🙂
http://video.toggle.sg/en/series/demi-cinta/ep1/365215