5 Secret Ways To Make You Feel Better When Handling Challenges In Your Life

Sat, May 22, 2021

Miscellaneous, Motivation

I know that many of you out there are having a roller coaster ride this year 2021.
Some cannot sleep at night. Heart feels uneasy.
Debts around your waist.
Insurmountable challenges weight down on your shoulders (and the burden feels just too heavy!)
Many are very worried about the future. 🙁

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The Covid19 pandemic around the world has impacted us again in Singapore!
It’s a strange kind of feeling where we now have heightened measures this time round
which feels quite similar to the painful circuit breaker we had last year.

Officially we Muslims in Singapore only celebrated 3 days of Hari Raya Puasa with 5 unique visitors per visit.
And now, we are back home
with our children occupied with full home based learning.

Back to square 1.
The point where we first started. 🙁

I took some time to reflect on my life and read books for inspiration to lift myself up.
Maintain my sanity.
And make myself feel better.
I want to share these life saving secrets with you.
I want to tell you, despite all challenges, all setbacks that befall us, never lose hope that the brighter future awaits us.
Presenting….

5 Secret Ways To Make Yourself Feel Better When Handling Challenges In Your Life 

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1. When life gives you lemons, make lemonade.

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I always believe this.
Focus. Be in Control.
Take charge. Empower.
Be at the driver’s seat. Steer the wheel.
And the only way you can do that is by following this mantra.
When life gives you lemons, you turn that sour lemons into a sweet lemonade drink.
Add a lot of sugar to it. 🙂
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Basically, turn your challenges’ into “something you can be grateful for”.

Alhamdulillah….. Reframe your challenge No 1
Alhamdulillah…. Reframe your challenge No 2
Alhamdulillah…. Reframe your challenge No 3
Alhamdulillah…. Reframe your challenge No 4
Alhamdulillah… Reframe your challenge No 5

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Examples for me…. 🙂

Alhamdulillah.
I can now work from home and can spend more time with my family.

Alhamdulillah.
I can now pray awal waktu for my 5 daily prayers at home.
I can be a full time imam for my family.
Subuh, Zuhur, Asar, Maghrib and Isyak 🙂


Alhamdulillah.
Responsible measures are finally in place to ensure that Singapore is one of the safest places on this earth.

Alhamdulillah.
Since offline strategies are non existent, I need to learn & embrace NEW
social media strategies like Instagram and TikTok to reach my customers.

Alhamdulillah.
Now is a good time to watch my diet since we can’t dine out at restaurants.

Alhamdulillah Ala Kulli Hal.
All praise to Allah S.W.T. for everything…

 

When you do this, you are placing yourself in a more EMPOWERING position to confront any challenges in your life.
You see things from a different perspective.
You feel in control.
I have been doing it for a while to maintain sanity and
make myself feel better.

Especially when I am down.
And I need to rise up back!
It works for me most of the time! Try it for yourself! 🙂

 

2. Allah does not burden a soul beyond it can bear

 

In life, definitely there will be challenges.

Yet.
Sometimes, I feel that the challenge is too BIG for me to overcome.
Tried to reframe. Yet felt powerless.
Feel hopeless.
Helpless. Weak.
Like nothing can be done. Nothing!

When that happened, I recall this ayat from Allah S.W.T.

ALLAH does not burden a soul beyond it can bear

ALLAH does not burden a soul beyond it can bear

ALLAH does not burden a soul beyond it can bear

I always believe that everything that happens to us happens for a reason. And the reason is to serve us.
For every musibah that befalls us, there will be hikmah.

We have to be patient with Allah’s test and move ahead.
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3. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger

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I realised that whenever challenges come to me, it is a sign that Allah S.W.T
wants to lift my martabat.
wants to make me stronger.
wants to prepare me for something big.

We won’t know what we are capable of unless we persevere.
We cannot discover new oceans unless we have the courage to lose sight of the shores.

Time and time again what I have learnt is that when we face setback.
When life throws stones at us.
And we feel pain.
Endure it a bit. Tahan.
Because pain is temporary.
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Take 1 step forward.
And 1 more.
And 1 more.
Whatever it is, just keep moving forward.
Soon you will realise that all this pain is over
and you can grasp your goals with your 2 hands.

Good things will come.

Never falter. Or worst, never quit.
Because pain is temporary. Quitting lasts forever.

 

 

 

 

 

4. Do your best to steer away from Riba

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Within your hearts, plant a niat that you will do your best to steer away from RIBA.
From interest based loans.
Allah S.W.T. told us in the Holy Quran 1400 years ago that Riba is Haram.
There is no barakah in it.

My friends,
Don’t be over-consumed with the vicious rat race.
Never compare yourself with others.
Wow! That person has nice car.
Wow! That person has nice house.
Wow! That person has XXXX…
List never ends.

Keeping up a lifestyle you can’t afford.
And when you can’t afford, you take loans with interest.
Again. There is no blessings in it.
Impossible for Allah to set the secret of happiness and contentment of the heart on something that is prohibited.

Too many people spend money they don’t have
for the things they don’t need,
to impress people they don’t like.

 

Free yourself from the chains of Riba. You will feel good.

You will nurse the unease in your heart and will be always be at peace with yourself.
You will feel better and live life on your own terms.
Not on other peoples’ expectations!

If you have the inkling to compare yourself with others, go on and compare.
Yet make it a source of inspiration.
And not a cause of depression.

And if you feel stressed, very easy.
Close facebook. Close instagram. Close tiktok.

Just focus on yourself. Have faith in yourself.

Focus ONLY on your progress.
Because Your Progress = Your Happiness!

 

 

 

5. You will be completely feel at ease when you firmly believe that everything in this world happens by the will of Allah

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We always hear of this Arabic proverb.
Man Jadda, Wa Jadda.
Whoever strives shall succeed.

This time round, change it to Man Fi Sajaddah, Wa Jaddah.

My friends,
Our hard work is not just the hustle and bustle with fellow human beings on this planet.
Our hard work is equally, if not MORE important on the sajadah.

On the prayer mat when we sujud to Allah S.W.T.
Allah hear our cries for help. Release all the burdens on your shoulder.
Seek his divine intervention.
Surrender to Allah.

 

Understand this.
Whatever that happens in this world is beyond our control

Don’t be despaired on things that you cannot control.
Don’t think…..
that you can stop the rain from falling.
The sun from rising from the east.
The moon from glowing.
The stars from twinkling bright at night.

Don’t.

If you have done your best and things still happen, believe me that its meant to be.

Don’t say, if I do this. This wont happen.
If I do that, that wont happen.
I should have done this.
I should have done that.

Instead say…
Everything happens by the will of Allah.
Whatever He wills happens,
and whatever he does not will does not happen.

We do our best. Let Allah do the rest.

 

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(An advice that I remind myself when I was hospitalised 2 years ago. Very relevant today!)
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Now… I hope you have benefited from my personal sharing, 5 Secret Ways To Make You Feel Better When Handling Challenges In Your Life…

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